I commit to remembering that experience can be messy. I accept that sand, mud, food, paint, cooking, eating, relationships, emotions, and social interactions can be messy. I allow my children to learn from making messes and the cleanup that follows.

I commit to creating a culture of accountability in my family. I hold my children accountable for their actions and choices with gentleness and love.

I commit to suspending judgment. I create and atmosphere in which mistakes are seen as learning experiences and valued for the lessons they bring.

I commit to managing my mind first. I realize that how I approach a situation affects the outcome and that I alone control my approach. I attend to and manage my frame of mind before I approach my children.

I commit to focusing on the search for solutions. I realize that fixing the problem is more important than fixing blame.

I commit to speaking self-responsible language. My language patterns reflect my belief in autonomy, personal responsibility, and ownership of one’s actions and feelings.

I commit to helping my children develop their inner authority. I recognize that an inner authority is the only authority my children will take with them everywhere they go.

I commit to modeling the message. I recognize that attitudes are more easily caught than taught. I become the message I want to deliver to my children.

I commit to seeing my child as teacher. I recognize that my children are in my life as much so I can learn from them as they are so they can learn from me.

I commit to creating a sense of oneness in my family. I am present for my children, helping them develop roots and feelings for belonging.